honestly no fandom drama fazes me anymore. I have been so desensitized. I joined online communities when I was nine and I am now twenty. I have seen everything. several times over. every fandom is the same. every last one. I have seen the same eyes in different people and they’re all going to hell
It takes some people years to find them. The ones who are completely indifferent. The one who know that No Fandom Is Different, that we’re all just scrabbling for a reason Why and pasting the blame for the problems on This Group for their Bad Behavior.
Fourteen-year-olds will lecture college graduates on why their fave relationship is canon and why you’re an Immature Little Bitch for disagreeing. Mothers of two kids will harass newbies over having the Wrong Opinions. No one is safe from the Discourse and the Wank, no one but the legendary longtime fans.
They are there to enjoy themselves, and enjoy the presence of those like them. They are nearly impossible to suss out, but once you find one you find everyone like them. Unbothered by the vocal minorities that campaign against certain actors and unruffled by anonymous hate messages, these are the sages, the ones who have gone through so many reincarnations of the same bullshit that they have achieved Enlightenment, and no longer engage in the constant ebb and flow of fan discontent and harassment.
And you will find, once you have found a small haven of these longtime fans, that you are learning from them. You are like them more and more with every day, absorbing their calm distance from the rage of wank and making peace with its inextinguishable presence.
One day, you too will be seated at the top of the mountain, enjoying both canon and fanfiction undisturbed, and a small newcomer with sunglasses and a gray face will approach and ask how you do it. How do you ignore the constant hate and drama?
You will remember the days of ‘your fave is problematic’ and that time you got anon hate for a week straight, and you will shake your head and say, ‘I got over it.’
I love this so much. I aspire to this. :)
Me in fandom nowadays:
huhSo that’s what’s happening to me
Yep, I’ve been dealing with this shit for like…18 years??? If you need a chill-fandom-zone feel free to join me on top of the mountain lol
After living on this earth for forty years and 5 days, I have finally reached this enlightened Zen state.
I am one with the fandom, and the fandom is with me.